A compliment is the best way to brighten up someone's day but it's a fine art...
What's the quickest way to lighten someone's mood? Give them a compliment, says a poll commissioned to celebrate Britain's first National Feelgood Day
The study by Transform Cosmetic Surgery
found 43 per cent of Brits said being told they look "younger" could lift them out of any grump while 37 per cent said being told their hair looks nice puts a spring in their step.
But giving a compliment is a fine art, says behavioural expert Louise Presley-Turner. An insincere comment is quickly sussed out and inappropriate timing can make a well-meant compliment come across as creepy.
Follow Louise's tips on giving the perfect compliment and you won't go wrong.Be truthful.
Don't pay someone a compliment just because you want to impress them or to make them like you. Compliments need to be authentic or the recipient will see right through them. Be truthful and make sure your compliment is heartfelt and sincere. Make eye contact and smile!
Ensure the recipient knows you mean what you say by being friendly but direct, and don't forget to say it with a smile. It makes the world of difference! Say it in front of others.
The best compliments come when you least expect them. For example, if you are complimenting your friend on her delicious dinner, make this praise in front of other people at the dinner table. Don't wait until dinner is over and you are alone in the kitchen to say how much you enjoyed the food. Having witnesses validates the compliment and gives the receiver a feeling of respect. Plus, it prompts others to join in with the praise, too.
Be super specific.
Giving a compliment can instantly lift someone's mood
Perhaps you like your friend's new dress, burt what exactly do you like about it? Is it the colour? Does it flatter her figure? Asking yourself why you like something will eliminate insincerity, which is often transparent to the person receiving the compliment. Being genuine and specific is the most important characteristic of giving a good compliment. Do it daily.
Set yourself the challenge of paying someone an authentic compliment every day - this could be your child for trying hard at school, praise for your sister's generosity, or maybe a friend on her gorgeous new shoes. Not only will it lift their mood, it'll lift yours too. Try it, it works!Don't forget to pay yourself a compliment.
We don't always have to wait for someone else to pay us a compliment to make us feel good. Each morning stand in front of a mirror and pay yourself a lovely compliment. You may feel silly to begin with, but paying yourself a daily compliment is sure to lift your mood and boost your confidence.
Louise Presley-Turner is author of Finding a Future That Fits (Hay House Publishing 2012).
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